"Everyone is on their own journey! and there is nothing you can do to control the outcomes"
My therapist said this to me during one of our sessions and I believe it was one of the most profound lessons I have learned in this life and these words continue to guide my path daily.
I was at one of the lowest points of my journey. My babies, well they were young adults actually, were struggling with mental health and dealing with their pain and anxiety through drug addictions, everything from cocaine to xanax to crystal meth. Everyday I was just trying to go to work and pay bills and be there for them as best I could. As a single mom I felt helpless and hopeless and heartbroken to say the least. I was desperate for help!
This is where my healing journey began.
This simple sentence, this simple realization turned my world around and forced me to evaluate all of the relationships I had ever encountered. As an empath and deeply emotional person, it is hard to not carry the pain for others. As a woman and a mother we feel a deep need to control the outcomes, especially for our children, and when the outcomes are so far out of our control we try harder, and harder until we find ourselves on the merry go round of guilt and not enoughness,
Coming to an understanding that we cannot control anything and that everyone is on their own journey, even our children, is a profound awakening.
The only story you can narrate is your own.
This is where the "I DON'T GIVE A F$%KS LIVE" but not in the sense that your thinking right now and it definitely doesn't happen right away.
When we begin to live our lives from a place of leadership and truth and divine authenticity, our story changes.
What once was a story of lack, scarcity and survival is now a story of resilience, abundance and passion.
When I started to live my life from a place of Love and Respect and understanding that each person is on their own journey, I began to shift my stories. My confidence grew as did my ability to move forward without a fear of judgement. Each person is living in their own stories and perceives life through their own lens of the experiences and traumas and interactions they have endured.
Some will journey with us for a time, and some will never be in the same place at the same time. Our journeys may or may not be on a parallel track at any given time. We have no idea how they perceive outside influences within their story. And we definitely cannot control any outcomes for them! We can share our stories, and hope it helps them on their journey as humans, we can give love and compassion.
Developing this understanding guides us to have a deeper respect for each and every person we encounter, without getting caught up in their stories, therefore lending to greater confidence and a lesser fear of judgement. The less emotional attachment and judgement we feel in others stories, the more freedom we feel to follow our own path, this in turn gives permission to others to do the same.
Each and every person is just trying to navigate their own Shit! their own stories and we are over here navigating ours. Don't spend precious moments worrying about if someone is judging you for the path your following, chances are they are just trying to navigate their own path. Take the lead. Learn, grow, and evolve as you do and allow others the respect to do the same. This is where you can deepen into your own authenticity, truth and peace.
This is truly where the "I DON'T GIVE A FUCKS LIVE" but in reality its quite the opposite. Its a deeper understanding of ourselves and the human race in all of its chaos, ugliness, beauty and resilience.
Its a deep respect that says "THE CRAZY IN ME, HONORS THE CRAZY IN YOU!"
Oh and I should mention, that my babies are all grown up now and living in alignment with their chosen paths, they are doing well, happy and healthy. And I am their biggest chearleader from the sidelines of course.